Sometimes on TV and in the movies we see estranged spouses refusing to respond to divorce filings, arguing about their future or threatening to never let their spouse see the kids again. Yes, these high-tension divorce cases do happen, but don’t assume it has to be that way. Your divorce can be a much more peaceful affair.
One way to do this is by using mediation, rather than going to court. A mediator is a third party who is not involved in the split and can guide you through it. However, they don’t make any rulings like a judge would. They help the two of you come to decisions on your own so that you still control the divorce process.
Another key is to talk to your spouse about any shared interests and goals you can work toward together. Maybe you are both business owners and your goal is to make sure that your companies are not impacted. Maybe you are parents and your goal is to make things easy on the children. Whatever you choose, when you have the same vision and the same goal, it goes smoothly.
Of course, you also need to watch the way you treat each other. The two of you should always strive to be civil, respectful and understanding. Remember that you are both people who have their own lives to consider, not enemies who need to try to “win.”
If you have the right mindset, divorce may not be the stressful event you’ve always imagined. Be sure you understand exactly what your legal options are.