Parents who end their relationship will still need to do what’s best for the children. Typically, this means that they should work as a parenting team to come up with a plan that puts the kids first. It isn’t always easy to do this, but focusing strictly on the children may be beneficial.
As you’re adjusting to the new way of life, there are some mistakes that you should avoid making. When you avoid these mistakes, you can make the transition easier for you and for the kids.
Mistake #1: Failing to set rules
You might think that you’re doing your child a favor by letting them have lax rules immediately after the split. That sets a dangerous precedent for them. Instead of doing this, set the rules right away so they know what to expect and can adjust to the rules you have at your home now.
Mistake #2: Arguing with your co-parent
Children don’t need to see the tension between their parents. If you have contentious matters to discuss with your ex, do it when the children aren’t around. This lets the children see the united parenting front that will make them feel more secure.
Mistake #3: Being petty about belongings
It’s easy to fall into the mode of thinking that the things you buy for your child should only be for your home. This can make the kids feel uneasy. Instead of focusing on which parent buys what and where the child brings the things you buy, work on ensuring they have what they need.
Parents who can get the parenting plan in order quickly after the split up give the child a better chance of successful adjustment to the new way of life. The plan should be tailored to what the child needs now because it’s possible to modify it in the future. Working closely with your ex and someone who’s familiar with creating these plans is beneficial so you can put the child’s interests first.
