Can a divorce change your life in positive ways?

On Behalf of | Oct 20, 2021 | family law |

No one ever foresees getting divorced. Sometimes people in North Carolina berate themselves because they think that in some way, they have spectacularly failed either themselves or their spouse. They look back at their tattered relationship and go in frustrating circles trying to pinpoint exactly where things went wrong and who was to blame. 

Occasionally, they feel that the collapse of the marriage is a catastrophe they will never survive. Actually, though, a divorce can be a productive time of renewal, a new opportunity for personal growth and change for the better. It all just depends on your outlook and particular circumstances.

In fact, you may even find that it’s kind of exhilarating to be doing things solo without having to consult another person about their tastes, preferences or opinion. So if you want the living room furniture positioned in a wacky way or you love neon orange bed linens, you can go for it without asking for permission from your significant other.

What are the pluses of getting divorced?

For everyone, the answer might be different. But overall, in broad terms, this is a selection of the benefits of parting ways for good: 

  • You will have more time and energy to invest in friendships that may have languished during your marriage.
  • You may discover that without the daily pressure of sharing a household and being legally hitched, you got along more amicably with your ex.
  • If you have been suffering from a rocky marriage for months or years, it can make you feel happy to end it finally and walk away rather than prolonging the misery.
  • If you behave with dignity, generosity and self-respect throughout the divorce, especially if it is contentious or your former spouse is bitter, you will feel proud of yourself and be able to repair your dented self-esteem. 

There are good and bad things about divorce

The process can be messy; there may be sadness and grief, but stay focused and optimistic. You will emerge stronger, buoyant and ready to tackle life on your own.


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