In recent years, the concept of a divorce registry – which is like a wedding registry but is designed to help someone rebuild their life post-divorce – has gained attention. If you are facing the end of your marriage, the opportunity to create a divorce registry may seem like a helpful way to regain your footing as you transition from one household into two.
With that being said, you should carefully consider the pros and cons of this decision, as well as whether it should impact your approach to property division before committing to this approach. Unlike creating a wedding registry, creating a divorce registry is not an undertaking that is as straightforward as it seems.
Pros
A divorce registry can serve as a practical tool for starting over, as you likely need to replace household items or furnish a new living space. It can also provide a structured way for friends and family to offer support, alleviating some financial burdens associated with establishing a new household. Furthermore, a divorce registry can be empowering, symbolizing a fresh start and community support. From an emotional standpoint, creating a divorce registry might be therapeutic, turning a challenging life event into an opportunity for renewal and growth.
Potential cons
Some may view a divorce registry as inappropriate or insensitive, especially if the divorce proceedings are contentious or involve mutual circles of friends and family. Sensitivity to others’ perceptions and feelings may be important if you’re trying to avoid inadvertently straining relationships.
Property division considerations
The intent behind a divorce registry – to obtain household items or gifts from friends and family – falls outside the scope of legal considerations in divorce proceedings. With that said, discussing the concept of a divorce registry during mediation or negotiation can offer insights into each party’s needs and priorities post-divorce.
Opting to create a divorce registry is a personal decision. There is no “right or wrong” approach to this issue. By thoughtfully assessing your unique needs and circumstances, you can more effectively determine whether this is an opportunity that makes sense for you.
